Two of my lovely friend, Katie and Jenette, and I went to Vancouver this past weekend. It was... an experience? The three of us and 2 other friends did couch surfing in Portland a few months ago and had a fabulous experience. So we decided to couch surf in Vancouver as well. The experience didn't live up to the Portland trip sadly. But we made due.
We stayed with a dude (I'll just call him Dude for the rest of the story) in Vancouver in a little apartment with 2 kitties. Dude really should have cleaned before we arrived because it majorly smelled like cat in there in a not cute way. He seemed like a pretty nice guy, accommodating with a good attitude. But I think his mind only revolved around beer. Also, he was about 30 with speckled grey and black hair but looked like he still hadn't grown out of his 15 year old pop punk days. The entire time we were there in the apartment with him, he was BLASTING punk/pop-punk music. It's pretty hilarious trying to hold conversation with someone you don't know over super loud music in a tiny space.
He had us bring him a bunch of beer from the States because its about double the price in Canada. So, sleepy us, Saturday night we just decided to stay in and chat and drink some beers instead of going out. He seemed pretty disappointed that we weren't in party going out mode. Whatever dude.
As the night went on, everyone had a few beers in them. I stopped after 2 because beer just makes me feel sick...sad. So I wasn't tipsy or anything. Just exhausted from the day running around the city and driving up from Seattle. As dude got a few beers in him, he started saying some really strange things. There were plenty of awkward silences in our group conversations because of his weird statements, well, basically because of his obvious outright hate of certain people groups...
Racism isn't cool. And this guy definitely had some racist moments. For example, he apparently hates hates hates Australians. Why? We couldn't figure it out even after asking him a million questions as to why. I said, "Well all the Australians I know are actually genuinely nice and sweet." Didn't matter to the dude.
Most racist statement of the night coming from this guy, "All Asians are ugly after the age of 15." Whaaaaaat?!? Who the hell thinks that? Are you kidding me? We tried to laugh it off hoping that he was just joking or something, but then he gave us this stoic look and said, "No, seriously." Wow... Racism. I would dare to argue that my friends who are Asian or part Asian are some of the most GORGEOUS people I have ever met so that statement he made has to be coming from a crazy point of view. What is his issue with Asians?
After that statement, I just felt completely cold and didn't really want to talk to him anymore, didn't want to spend the night there, and wished the apartment wasn't so damn small so I could at least just escape the idiocy of this dude. But nope. I was stuck in there.
Next he moved onto religion. Now, Jenette is hardcore Atheist, Katie is somewhere between Agnostic/Aethist/Spiritual Humanist, and I am Christian/Liberal. The beautiful thing about my friends is that we can all have totally different views and opinions, different faith or non-faith, but we still completely respect each other and never think less of one another for our differences. We love each other and support each other.
I feel like this guy would have just straight up hated me if he knew that I were Christian. He started talking about the types of girls he likes and he went into talking about the last girl he dated who happened to be religious. He bashed on her and her beliefs so much and it made me sooooooo uncomfortable. He basically just wanted a hot girl version of himself.
Being around those sorts of people, people who claim progressive and liberal beliefs, but are actually just really judgmental, cold hearted and hateful, make me so uncomfortable and sad for humanity. Are most people mean and judgmental?
Why do people use this defense mechanism of hating on others because they feel threatened?
Saturday night in Vancouver was a bust. And we ended up having brunch with him on Sunday at a pretty delicious little spot. But he departed ways from us when we decided to go to the Aquarium instead of going on a Beer tour. I thought that Jenette and Katie liked him a lot, but after he left they were like, "Well...that was interesting. He has some intense opinions. Not particularly nice." Phew, thank God they heard some of the hateful things he said the night before.
So, other than the racist mean dude, it was an ok trip. The aquarium was fun and i will post more photos of the beautiful sea creatures this week. I am happy I got to spend some time with friends outside of Seattle, outside of the states. Though, I kinda thought Vancouver was more fun during the Olympics :) Can't beat that!
Question: I have a question for my Canadian friends. Is there a lot of racism and hate towards Asians and Australians in Canada? It really threw me off and made me sad. Here in the US, people can be really racist and rude towards Mexican immigrants, especially on the East Coast and along the South. Breaks my heart. Is there a quiet culture war in Canada? All my Canadian friends are super duper nice so I just don't understand!