Hey there everyone, I haven't had my computer for almost a week now and it is driving me nutso! It has been hanging out at the Mac store since last Wednesday and they only just started working on it last night... As someone whose entire career/s are managed off of her computer, it has been both kind of nice to be forced to take a break from some work but also torture because when I can't work, I can't sustain myself and my businesses. Technology is a double edged sword, it is so helpful when it's working, and other times it bites ya in the bootie. But hopefully I'll get my computer back tomorrow and hopefully I'll be able to pay all my bills tomorrow! Fingers crossed!
Along with that, I wanted to talk about Pinterest for a little bit. Like I said, technology is a double edged sword. I am amazed and honored that I have over 500,000 followers on Pinterest and on quite a few of my individual boards, I have over a million followers. Yea, what?? Isn't that crazy insane? I don't know how it happened because Pinterest has been pretty much the only online site that I don't use for business, only play. I guess that just pinning what I love and finding happiness just playing around on Pinterest has made other people happy too who have found my boards. Hooray for happy and loving community, right?
What I do need to point out though is that I have been getting a lot of really frustrating comments on my Pins lately. It starts with one person leaving a negative comment on a pin then someone else chiming in with them, dramatizing the negative comment. Then someone else jumps in to either defend me and my taste or just the product I pinned itself. And then it escalates into women just straight up being nasty, demeaning and rude to each other through pointless argumentative debates on Pinterest. Here are a couple of prime examples:
- Women escalating to bitching each other out and putting each other down over commenting on a RING. Just completely ridiculous. I couldn't restrain myself from leaving a final comment on this one and I do hope the ladies who were being rude read my comment and take the words with thoughtfulness and kindness.
- Ladies getting judgmental and dramatic over a mixed patterned outfit. It's ok to not like a style or trend. It's ok to have opinions, but do we need to be so rude and theatrical about it? I would like to personally apologize to the ever so sweet Angie (Angela Bailey on Pinterest) as I saw that a woman was directly rude to Angie in the comments of this post and I was pretty frustrated reading it. Angie, thanks for not biting back at her with demeaning words like she did to you (Smiley faces do not mask a rude comment, by the way.) It was hard for me to not jump in and get mad at that women directly but I think we have more grace than that, right?
- Ladies criticizing each other over the spelling of the expression "Woot" while commenting on a picture of SHOES. Ai yi yi... pointless arguments.
- I got really really really frustrated reading the comments back and forth on this beautiful image of a girl with piercings. I really CANT STAND seeing people, especially women being so self righteous. One older woman was pretty demeaning to the younger generations. Then a younger girl gets frustrated, rightfully so, and vocalizes her thoughts but lets her words escalating to a really combative level. Not so cool. Then another middle aged woman who at first was pretty nice about her thoughts on the image suddenly just attacks the younger girl saying "Who you YOU think You are" and in the same paragraph says she herself RESPECTS others. Ermm... sometimes being respectful means checking yourself and knowing when to just walk away from the conversation rather than egging others on. Getting in arguments that escalate and escalate, generations attacking other generations, using the mask of the internet to not check yourself and your words and how you treat others... this just sucks, you guys. It sucks. And it makes me really sad seeing it on my Pins when I have not encouraged this sort of language. I just pin what I love.
I've got to say that I am just sick of women treating each other badly, especially on the web, especially on my Pinterest boards. I grew up in a lot of ways having to be my own mom, having to learn at an early age the importance of setting a good example for my little sisters, for younger generations, for peers and elders, having to make due when I couldn't find good women role models. I care so deeply about empowering women and encouraging women to find strength in their voices. I care about the community of women on the web, I care about how we treat each other, how we show respect and grace on the web. I care about that fact that we all have different opinions, and we are all entitled to different opinions. But there are times when we just DON'T need to vocalize all of our thoughts, especially when those thoughts are negative, overly dramatized and may hurt someone else.
I want to ask you friends if you would please take a pledge to be KIND and thoughtful with your words on Pinterest. And that should spread to our blogs, our twitter, facebook, all of our social media accounts too. It is so much easier to spread hateful and demeaning words when we are behind the safety of our computer screens, I do understand that. It is hard to keep ourselves in check when we are rapidly typing away and not taking control of our emotions in the moment. We are women and we have SO much greatness inside of us to spread, and to do that, we've got to keep ourselves in check when those negatives emotions arise. We are not merely emotional beings but we have wisdom, strength and powerful minds that guide our emotions, our thoughts, and how we express those feelings and thoughts. So let's reflect our better, more graceful, wise and kind selves on the web, and especially on Pinterest. You and I will feel better for doing so. Will you join in? I would love it if you would pin the image at the top of this post to try and share this message on Pinterest. Feel free to drag it to your desktop to post on your blog or wherever. Let's spread a message of kindness and positivity on the web. <3