In honor of Valentines Day, I though today's list should be all about love. Now, when it comes to Valentines Day, I feel like most people tend to focus on the ME aspect of it. "My last Valentines Day sucked because..." "I wonder what my boyfriend is getting me for Valentines Day" and so on. We all have our Valentines Day sob stories. And we all have memories of feeling really loved by someone because of something they gave us, did for us or said to us, be it on Valentines Day or not. So why not, for this Valentines Day, focus on what you can do for someone else rather than getting preoccupied with what you want for Valentines Day?
This week, I decided the list prompt should be, "List the ways in which you can love others." Now this isn't just a list of things you have already done for others. It's a list in which you can list EVERYTHING you can think of that you think would bring love to someone else, plus ways in which you are good at loving others. I know for myself that I tend to be someone who tries to give love through words of affirmation and through gift giving. Those feel like the most natural ways for me to communicate love to others. But not everyone feels like they have received love through words or through physical gifts. Some people just need a hug, or quiet quality time spent with someone they care about. Some people need to feel taken care of through acts of service to feel fulfilled in love. I think it is a really important challenge to try to step out of your comfort zone with how you communicate love to others every so often. Sometimes fulfilling a challenge can be so rewarding. And when it is connected to showing love towards someone else, they get the benefit of receiving love and you get to feel how special it is to fully give to someone, bringing them happiness and honest love.
Ways in Which I Feel Comfortable & Challenged In Communicating Love:
- I can leave responses to everyone who posts a comment on my blog. (thank you kind commenters!)
- I can respond to every person that tweets at me. (thank you for your tweets!)
- I can make packages to send to my friends and family far away.
- I can hug my friends and loved ones.
- I can buy people presents.
- I can give my friends and strangers compliments.
- I can put loving energy into each pieces of jewelry I make & sent out.
- I can accept love from others.
- I can leave love notes for my boyfriend.
- I can pay off someone's layaway plan. - Inspired by Yes & Yes
- I can spend quality time one on one with those I love.
- I can send good energy and prayers to others.
- I can always be gracious and say thank you.
- I can apologize.
- I can listen quietly.
- I can give advice when it is warranted.
- I can take interest in others.
- I can be a source of comfort.
- I can be a shoulder to cry on.
- I can send a care package to a soldier.
- I can be honest with those around me.
- I can give a back rub or massage.
- I can give space when it is needed.
- I can remember something that someone liked and then buy it for them later, secretly.
- I can be thoughtful.
- I can simply spend time with someone doing whatever we or they like.
- I can ask someone HOW they appreciate being loved.
- I can tell others that I appreciate them and why I appreciate them.
- I can tell other why I admire them and how I have learned from them.
- I can forgive others.
- I can seek to accept decisions made by others that I may not agree with.
- I can be kind despite differences in opinions or beliefs.
- I can think before I speak.
- I can write nice Yelp reviews of businesses I love. - Inspired by Yes & Yes.
- I can practice patience.
- I can accept invitations to hangout with others.
- I can treat my friends to dinner or drinks.
- I can pay for a strangers coffee.
- I can buy a homeless person food, or a blanket, or coffee.
- I can be kind EVEN to those who are rude or mean.
- I can tell others "I love you."
- I can give without expecting anything in return.
- I can give someone a call.
- I can send someone a sweet text message.
- I can smile.
- I can write letters saying thank you to those who have helped me or mentored me.
- I can send gifts & write letters to kids and people I have mentored.
- I can visit & thank the most influential teachers and professors I had in my life.
- I can write letters to someone in prison. - Inspired by Yes & Yes
- I can may a strangers bill at a restaurant.
- I can keep mentoring others.
- I can keep seeking out mentorship.
- I can accept differences.
- I can allow my opinions to be changed.
- I can be open with others about my experiences.
- I can seek to trust others more.
If you are looking for a blogger who will inspire you to find more positivity in your life and who is abounding with kindness for others, you need to check out Yes & Yes right now! A few of my ways in which I want to love others were inspired by Sarah's project 9 Days of Nice. She is such a good hearted person and when there are the occasional not so nice folks on the internet, her blog is one that I turn to when I am having an off day and need a little encouragement or inspiration.
As always, feel free to download the PDF list above or write down your list in a journal. If you post about it on Twitter, Instagram, your blog, or Pinterest, then stop back here and link up your list so we can all visit each others lists and gain inspiration & insight from one another. Let's inspire each other to reach out and love each other this week, for Valentines Day AND because we each simply should be empowered to love on another & act on it.
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